The way I think is definitely influenced by friends and family, but I’m also super observant which makes this world seem like the twilight zone sometimes. People skills. Life skills. Experience. There’s something to be said for it all.
People have poor social skills, are blissfully unaware, or plain rude. The other day, I was standing behind a guy in a checkout line that was talking on his phone. It was his turn to checkout and the cashier rung him up, while quietly telling him the cost and taking his money as the customer continued his phone conversation. It’s rude and the guy probably knew, but didn’t care at all. A few years back, a friend would tell me cell phones are digital crack, especially if I texted while he was talking. That’s pretty accurate.
When I worked at a card and gift shop, the owner made sure all employees could count back change. The store is still run the same way which is rare. Now, the register tells the cashier what to give back or places like Wawa have a machine set up to dispense the change. Or maybe human error is so great because people in charge are too busy to educate others on how to do the job right. What a lazy way of doing things.
Health is on the back burner for a lot of people. The older generations are living longer but also fighting cancer or some other illness, and the younger generations are predicted to be diabetic and obese. The government doesn’t want healthy people. Sick ones are easier to take advantage of. There’s a documentary coming out May 9–“Fed Up”–that looks great.
In sports, there’s nothing stoic about today’s athletes. In the 40s athletes went to War. They didn’t have the publicity, paychecks or stardom of the pros today. I have been watching A Football Life and it makes me wish I was part of that generation. Badass players and coaches.
In general, weakness is accepted and it’s sad. Yesterday, an I heard a girl said she wanted to be “dainty.” I had no response but I thought what an embarrassing thing to say aloud. It’s not something I have ever even considered.
Weakness applies to training as well. I enjoy watching others max because it’s programmed, so numbers should increase. I’m all for maxing as a way to measure progress, but the tests should be chosen based on the sport, not just for the sake of having numbers. A friend told me if he coached, he would want to do strongman testing. I know my understanding of strongman is different and he couldn’t articulate what he meant exactly. He said, “You know, to see how strong they really are…if they’re really pushing.” I said, “Oh, so you’re talking about the mental aspects of competing.” That’s a whole different kind of assessment.
Motivation and mental toughness are always good topics. Having studied sport psychology, there are characteristics you can bring out of athletes, but at the highest level of competition, I think you either have it, or you don’t. Some things, like effort, can’t be coached.
I coach athletes, and friends, and family, and watch them lift or search youtube to find great lifts. Recently, I watched someone squat max and the effort was abysmal. Later, talking to Cristi about it, she said “Yeah, there’s no grind”. We’re always talking about having to do something–if your life depended on completing a lift, or some other feat, who would rise to the challenge? I have some herniated discs, Coach Steel has had a bunch of surgeries, and Cristi just got her hip repaired, but if it was life or death, we’d kill ourselves to do whatever was necessary. Wouldn’t think twice about it. Load the bar. Others would just lay down. What a sorry way to live.
Among other things…people wear suits and ties, sit in cubicles, don’t have enough time, want sympathy, blah, blah, blah.
In general, I assume the worst which is an awful way to think, but it makes it easier to avoid disappointment. I like people who have no governor on the things they say. Honest people and hard workers earn respect. The rest gets old fast.